Della Dear

We’ve been dating for 6 months and he’s wonderful but a little two faced. He seems to shut on and off at random intervals. The first few times I shrugged it off as him not wanting to get too attached to me too fast. That I can understand. The 5^th and 9^th times it seems he has a personality disorder or a narcissist. Also I believe he’s lied to me about his name, place of employment, housing situation, etc. We met on a dating app what did I expect right?

-Dizzy

Dear Dizzy

I empathize with you completely my dear girl. This one has taken you for a whirl. I would not walk away from this catch (22). I would RUN. If you feel he has lied about one thing it may be a misunderstanding or he could have in fact lied. If you feel he has lied about several things (height and weight don’t really count here we’ve all fudged that for the S.O.S once in a lifetime) then he is just not the one for you. If a man fixes his mouth to lie to you about his name (perhaps it’s embarrassing) and housing situation (is living with a parent so bad. It’s very cost effective in this economy) he has something to hide. Trust is given and earned. Your title aka name is a piece of your identity and this man may be in a crisis bigger than you and I. (But that’s not your burden to bear) Lying to you is taking away your free will, Goddess. And everyone loves free will and ice cream.

Now the dating app, site, ad, etc… Don’t give up hope. In this ever changing world we seem to work more than we connect with others. Maybe take a break from that app. Maybe take a break from swiping right/left and try the real world (not the TV series). There are eligible men out there. Some of them have traits that make them sour choices but not all. For compatibility to work both individuals must understand their own needs and wants. They must find and nurture both strengths and weaknesses. Look within Queen.

XOXO Della